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A Love Letter to Your Future Organised SELF
A Love Letter to Your Future Organised SELF
February 2026 Written By Christina Hardy
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Why imagining her might be the most powerful step you take today! Let your brain allow yourself to create that self you have dreamed of!
When life feels messy, it’s easy to believe you’re falling behind
When life feels messy, it’s easy to believe you’re falling behind
There are seasons where everything feels louder than usual.
The laundry pile seems to whisper accusations.
The kitchen counters feel heavier than they should.
Your mind runs through a quiet list of things you meant to do… and didn’t.
You might tell yourself you just need more discipline.
Or a better routine.
Or to “finally get it together”.
But what if none of that is actually the starting point?
What if the real shift begins with something softer…
with imagining the version of you who feels supported in her own space?
Why connecting with your future self helps you create lasting change ...
Why connecting with your future self helps you create lasting change ...
Psychology shows that when we feel emotionally connected to our future selves, we make kinder and more consistent choices in the present.
Not because we force ourselves.
Because we care.
When you picture a future version of you who walks into a home that feels calm, who knows where things live, who isn’t constantly bracing against overwhelm, your brain begins to see change as meaningful rather than exhausting.
You stop organising to fix yourself.
You start organising to support yourself.
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Your future organised self isn’t perfect — she’s supported
Your future organised self isn’t perfect — she’s supported
Let’s gently rewrite the picture.
She doesn’t wake up with endless energy.
She doesn’t live in a magazine-ready home.
She hasn’t “figured everything out”.
Instead:
She has systems that hold her on hard days
She knows what matters and lets the rest be good enough
Her space feels kinder, not stricter
She trusts herself a little more
She isn’t someone else.
She’s you, with a bit more breathing room.
Decluttering as an act of self compassion, not self criticism
Decluttering as an act of self compassion, not self criticism
So many women approach organisation as a way to punish themselves.
“I should be better.”
“I shouldn’t be like this.”
“I just need to try harder.”
But lasting change rarely grows in criticism.
When you begin to see decluttering as something you do for your future self — like leaving a note that says I’ve got you — resistance softens.
Each small action becomes a quiet kindness:
Resetting a surface
Putting something back where it belongs
Creating a tiny system
Letting go of something you no longer need
These are not chores.
They are gestures of care.
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Imagine her for a moment
Imagine her for a moment
Pause, just for a breath.
Picture yourself six months from now.
You walk through your front door.
There’s a sense of ease — not perfection — but a feeling that your environment isn’t working against you.
You know where things are.
Your mornings feel less rushed.
Your nervous system isn’t constantly on alert.
Ask Yourself : What does she feel grateful for?
What did you start doing that made her life lighter?
Gentle journaling prompts: writing to your future organised self
Gentle journaling prompts: writing to your future organised self
If you’d like, take a notebook and explore:
What does my future self thank me for starting today?
What feels easier in her daily life?
What pressure has she released?
How does she speak to herself now?
What small changes helped her feel more supported at home?
There’s no right way to do this.
Let it be honest.
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You don’t have to transform overnight
You don’t have to transform overnight
Change doesn’t arrive in a dramatic sweep.
It grows in quiet moments:
Choosing one drawer.
Taking a pause instead of pushing through exhaustion.
Creating a tiny routine that feels doable.
Your future self isn’t waiting for perfection.
She’s simply hoping you’ll begin.
A Personal Note From Me - I want to share something honestly.
A Personal Note From Me - I want to share something honestly.
In my work supporting women who feel overwhelmed by their homes and the mental load they carry,
I’ve seen this again and again: When we replace pressure with compassion, progress becomes possible.
Your space doesn’t need to be flawless to feel supportive.
It only needs to reflect the fact that you matter too.
I have felt this heavy with my own house! The challenge of not having your home support you and feeling like you are the person that is failing and you are unable to do this! Your brain keeps telling you this and in fear of proving yourself wrong it will keep pushing you to not get organised and keep you busy focusing on other things!
An invitation to take one small step today
An invitation to take one small step today
Ask yourself:
“What is one gentle thing I can do that my future self will appreciate?”
Maybe it’s clearing a small surface.
Maybe it’s writing that letter.
Maybe it’s simply deciding to treat yourself with a little more kindness.
Whatever it is, let it be enough.
Your future organised self is already rooting for you.
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If you’d like gentle, ADHD-friendly support with this — online or in your home — you’re welcome to book a no-pressure chat or send me a what's app. We’ll find a calm next step together.
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Curious what kind of support your future self actually needs?
Curious what kind of support your future self actually needs?
Sometimes the hardest part isn’t starting… it’s understanding how your brain works best so you can create systems that feel supportive instead of stressful.
If you’d like a clearer picture, I’ve created a short quiz to help you explore your organising style and where you might be getting stuck.
It’s thoughtful, insightful, and designed to meet you exactly where you are.
👉 Take the quiz here: Quiz
Think of it as a gentle conversation with yourself — a small step towards creating a home and life that feels lighter.
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