Step 5: Share the Load 🙌

Hosting doesn’t mean doing everything alone. ADHD brains burn out when the pressure piles up. This can be really hard when you aren't used to asking for help! So start small and remind yourself that this doesn't reflect on your ability! 

👉 Ask for help:

• Guests bring one dish each.

• Partner handles drinks.

• Kids set the table.

It’s still hosting — but with support.

Step 6: Surviving Family Expectations 🎭

Here’s the big one: expectations.

Family often come with their own traditions, ideas, and opinions. Add ADHD into the mix, and it can feel like you’re “failing” if you don’t match up.

👉 But here’s the truth: you don’t owe anyone a “perfect” Christmas.

• If you serve shop-bought pudding → it’s fine.

• If the house isn’t spotless → they’ll live.

• If you say no to extra hosting → that’s your boundary.

💡 Remember: connection is more important than presentation.

Step 7: Give Yourself Grace 💜

Christmas magnifies ADHD struggles — and that’s okay.

👉 You are not lazy if you simplify.
👉 You are not failing if you feel overwhelmed.
👉 You are not less than because you can’t juggle it all.

You’re human. You’re doing your best. And your best is more than enough.

Self-grace is self-care.

Step 8: Create ADHD-Friendly Hosting Hacks 🎉

Here are quick wins for calmer hosting:

• Disposable trays → less washing up.

• Buffet style → no strict timings.

• Visual labels → sticky notes on dishes so you don’t forget what’s in which pot.

• Playlist ready → music sets the vibe and hides any awkward silence.

Hosting doesn’t have to be complicated — it can be light, fun, and flexible